I think the idea of belonging to a communitythat self conscious embraces these values to some extent might be necessary. I think this would fall under your "tight knit church" point that you decided to leave out. I am not certain it has to be a whole church that is that way, but if you know no one in real life who embraces these principles, can two parents by themselves pass them on? Where would the children find spouses? Etc. So, whether this is a local church, a subset of members of a church, a group of people from different churches, or even a group of non-local friends who meet a few times a year, I think there must be something larger than the family, to which the family can tangibly belong, and can link their individual identity to.
I agree with almost everything here. I have many of the same goals and strategies for achieving them. However, I did find the part about calories a bit weird. In a modern society if you are intelligent and focused it’s easy to get a job. If you have a job, you have money. If you have money, calories are not difficult to come by. Part of the family identity I am building is a sense of responsibility for being (and marrying others who are) intelligent. For me that also means that young women should not be taught to restrict their search to local men. If the local men aren’t worthy, go where the intelligent men are. Strong women can carry the culture even if they marry outsiders.
I think the idea of belonging to a communitythat self conscious embraces these values to some extent might be necessary. I think this would fall under your "tight knit church" point that you decided to leave out. I am not certain it has to be a whole church that is that way, but if you know no one in real life who embraces these principles, can two parents by themselves pass them on? Where would the children find spouses? Etc. So, whether this is a local church, a subset of members of a church, a group of people from different churches, or even a group of non-local friends who meet a few times a year, I think there must be something larger than the family, to which the family can tangibly belong, and can link their individual identity to.
I agree with almost everything here. I have many of the same goals and strategies for achieving them. However, I did find the part about calories a bit weird. In a modern society if you are intelligent and focused it’s easy to get a job. If you have a job, you have money. If you have money, calories are not difficult to come by. Part of the family identity I am building is a sense of responsibility for being (and marrying others who are) intelligent. For me that also means that young women should not be taught to restrict their search to local men. If the local men aren’t worthy, go where the intelligent men are. Strong women can carry the culture even if they marry outsiders.